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Valentines day- Love Aaj Kal

14-Feb-2016. It's Valentines Day yet again. As I sit and watch TV, I'm taken back to my childhood. The days of innocence.
If you liked someone, it was enough that you are able to see that person every day. There was no need to convey your feelings. If, fortunately, the feelings are reciprocated, even then it was enough that you see and talk to that person. For most of my friends in similar situation, it was the same case.
Then SRK happened.
He made love more cute. But even then, it was all about silent glances, simple smiles and simple talks. Holding hand was a taboo.
Next came Friendship band craze. So all the 'love lorn' people took a back step and learnt to make Friends with their Crushes, before taking the next step. Again thanks to SRK!!
So our love guru, then taught our generation the next major lesson -Valentines Day. And that you have to gift a Chocolate and a Red rose and may be a cute card( cards were mostly avoided since one can't take it home). Nothing more, nothing less. SRK is the King of Romance, but his kind of Romance was decent. You made the girl realize that she is your friend, that she is cute and she was the one whom you would love to take home to your mom. You made her feel protected. You were in fact committed.

Cut to 21st century, SRK is replaced by many new love gurus. Meaning of Valentines day has also changed. People are making money out of this day. TV programs are dedicated to v-day. Newspapers have ads promoting this day. Expensive gifts are a must. Flaunting your date detail on social sites is must. Holding hand is just the beginning and one can't stop at that. One has to go out and celebrate this love. May be even after all this, next year your partner would change. But one has to continue doing all this on the so called 'Day of Love'. Telling lie at home is a part of this package. One is no longer committed.

Not that I'm against Love or display of love. Just that I wonder where all the innocence is lost. Why is there a need to Show? Is this the age of mistrust or the time where nothing is for real? Is the meaning of True Love lost?

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